Tuesday, October 26, 2021

Giuseppe and the Saint

 

In 2004 my law business was in a financial crisis and I had decided that I badly needed to diversify and start doing some family law cases which previously I hated the whole idea of doing. But I found myself fumbling around late in my career trying out family law but I had no idea how to go about doing it.

Then one fine day I bumped into Larry at the courthouse. Larry was a lawyer I had met some 20 years earlier when we both worked at the same law firm and when we were fresh out of law school. Back then we were coworkers but not really friends however we gave each other nicknames just for fun. For some reason know only to Larry, he started calling me Giuseppe which is the Italian form of my name Joseph even though Larry is not Italian. My nickname for him was Saint Larry because he was such the opposite of a Saint and I found that amusing. Most people who knew him would agree that Larry was hard to get along with, cussed a lot, had a tendency to lose his temper and was rude to women and men alike but also, he was fun loving and mischievous. He also had a very mischievous smile that I thought was funny.

On that day when we bumped into each other at the courthouse, Larry asked me how I was doing and I think I surprised us both by answering very truthfully that my law business was failing, that I was going broke and that I needed to try doing some family law  cases to pick up new business. Then it was his turn to surprise me!  He warmly asked me  to come see him at his office and said that he would help me get back on my feet. His offer was such a welcome surprise because I was desperate and it made me feel so grateful that he would even say that to me. We made an appointment for me to visit him and when I showed up, I discovered that he had a thriving, high volume, family law practice.

During that first meeting we decided that he would become my mentor and I his protégé and he also asked me to do some work for him that he would pay me for which involved me handling some of his Family Court hearings.

Here are some of the other things Saint Larry did for me as my mentor:

I would come by his office once a week on a Thursday or Friday to pick up about 10 files for the coming week. When I finished the hearings and dropped off the files he would pay me and then, he would  hand me another 10 files and he would brief me on each case. As it turned out, the cases I was handling for him involved just about every situation that was likely to come up in a family law case.

He was warm and respectful towards me although he would yell and cuss at his office staff.

Because I was handling so many court hearings for Saint Larry I was becoming  not only more confident but I was learning a whole lot very quickly and gaining priceless experience.  I soon discovered that I had a knack for this type of work, born out by the fact that I had a high success rate on the hearings I was handling for him.

Larry didn’t stop by just helping me financially as a part-time employer. He also spent time with me showing me how to run a family law business of my own.

He convinced me to change my law office location to a freeway so that clients could find me more easily.  

He showed me how to do my own yellow page ads and in essence he just told me to imitate his ads, keep them simple and say the word affordable or lower priced somewhere in there.

My association with Saint Larry lasted for a little over a year. By then my own law practice had made a financial come back and I needed to spend more and more of my time working with my own clients.  I think that was Larry’s plan all along! Lastly, I believe that I Giuseppe helped Saint Larry to get a much-needed break from his heavy caseload. Also I suspect that being his protégé also changed him just a little bit. He started treating his staff much better and seemed calmer. 

Larry turned out to be a very good mentor in spite of his having some character issues. He had all the positive traits that a mentor should have and we both benefited from the experience.

I will be forever grateful to Saint Larry’s for his help in my time of crisis. He passed away in 2020 which I didn’t know about until a year later. Belatedly, I have prayed for Larry to join the real saints in heaven through God’s mercy and grace. 

Saturday, July 3, 2021

THIS IS MY COUNTRY

 


As a Black man should I celebrate the 4thof July? I do every year and here is why.

I live here and have raised my family here like my father before me and his before him and so on.

Black men have fought in every war this country has ever had. I have an uncle, a Marine who fought in three of our wars -WWII, Korea and in Vietnam so that I wouldn't have to.

I've seen much of the country from coast to coast and it is beautiful.

Some things we did get right as a nation. I am proud that we have remained a democracy for over 243 years and that we still have both freedom of speech and freedom of religion. 

Also we are a diverse people of all races and cultures living here in America and I like that too.

These are just some of my reasons why I celebrate the 4th of July every year but you decide for yourself. I know that there are also problems some of them running long and deep. Nevertheless my ancestors paid a heavy price just being here and I'm not going anywhere. This is where I belong, this is my country.

I've shared two links below to two Black artists who sang songs about America. As you listen to them ask yourself if these two men truly believed the words that they were singing? They sold me on it, I believe they too believe, THIS IS MY COUNTRY! 

This is My Country, Curtis Mayfield and The Impressions - 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NlF2GzfU7DE

America The Beautiful, Ray Charles - 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2FXN1Z6Q004

Photo - That's me on the far left with a group of family members.