You hurt your spouse deeply by (________________) fill in the blank or you hurt each other. Is this the end of
the marriage or is there hope? Yes, there is hope because God can fix it if
you are humble enough and honest enough. The first step is to stop the behavior. The
next step is to face reality and honestly admit to yourself and to God your part in whatever hurting thing that took place. After this breakthrough you will need to
have strong faith because now you must forgive your spouse's part in whatever happened
between you.
You must say the words, "I forgive
you!" Then begin treating him or her as if they had never sinned against
you. I’m not talking about being in denial nor about simply forgetting what happened. I’m
talking about what I call active forgiveness.
The making of a firm decision to treat your spouse as innocent of wrongdoing, the granting of a full pardon to your spouse. Keep repeating this active form of
forgiveness every day until the hurt you feel is gone from your hearts. This
could take awhile, but don’t
quit just minutes before this miracle happens for you.
Part of the healing process you’ll
experience is the softening of your hearts which allows the stirrings of love to
begin again or should I say to begin anew. This will be a beautiful and a divine thing. Then you will experience and understand what God meant in
1 Peter 4:8 where he says, “Love covers over a multitude of sins."
1 Peter 4:8 where he says, “Love covers over a multitude of sins."
Finally, learn to love God’s way as in 1 Corinthians 13:1-8. In this passage God gives us an amazing blueprint for how to love your spouse. Own this passage of the bible. Substitute your name in all of the place where the words, 'love' and 'it' appear then imitate those actions.
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